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Training Jiu-Jitsu and grappling 15+ years. Certified instructor in MMA, BJJ, and self-defense. Straight from the mat, taught the way it actually works.
Kids don't need another talk about bullying. Stand Firm puts them on their feet, inside real scenarios. Hands-on, not a lecture. A rehearsal for real life.
Book This WorkshopA lecture tells them bullying is bad. Kids already know that. What they don't know is what to do when it's happening. Stand Firm is interactive and coach-led from start to finish, turning awareness into action through real scenarios they practice, not just hear about.
Traces to "Crush Bullying," accepted by the AMHP Board of Directors and presented at the National Interfaith Anti-Bullying Summit at Georgetown University. The age-differentiated, parents-and-youth format was the core of the original design.
Most anti-bullying programming targets K-6 and fades right when the stakes rise. Stand Firm centers on pre-teens and teens, banded by age so each group gets a session that speaks their language, and the format adjusts for younger groups when a community needs it.
Delivered by a coach with 15+ years on the mats, certified in MMA, BJJ, and self-defense. A 16-year-old tunes out a costume. They take a coach seriously.
Real scenarios, real responses. Kids choose how they'd react, ignore it, tell an adult, step in, and how confident they feel doing it. Everyone moves, nobody's singled out.
Training Jiu-Jitsu and grappling 15+ years. Certified instructor in MMA, BJJ, and self-defense. Straight from the mat, taught the way it actually works.
Kids hear the scenario, then move to the area matching their real choice. Walk away, join in, report it, or step in and help. The room then unpacks why it split, with nobody singled out.
The scenarios come from the hallway, the group chat, and the walk home. The places it actually happens.
The four rolesBully, target, bystander, upstander — and how to spot each one.
The three typesVerbal, physical, cyber. In person and online.
Inside the bully's headWhy bullies pick who they pick, and how awareness of that dynamic changes the picture.
The ROAR moveCrushRoar's named upstander framework: Recognize it, Own your ground, Act, Report. One move kids remember and use.
Assertive, not aggressiveConfidence with a spine. Control the anger, hold the ground.
Reporting is the strong moveTelling a trusted adult, reframed so it never reads as snitching.
De-escalation and boundariesVoice, distance, posture.
The parent's partHow to receive it when a kid reports, and how to have the conversation. Worked live in Family Night.
The research behind it: when an upstander steps in, bullying stops within about 10 seconds in the majority of cases. Stand Firm covers that step.
Kids who can name what's happening and know the move to make.
From bystander to upstander — a whole room that steps in instead of standing by.
Parents who know how to have the conversation, not just hope it goes well.
Ways to build the confidence to navigate the hallway, the group chat, and the walk home.
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